Do you feel like we are being programmed to grow up fast, move through our days fast, figure things out fast, act fast, get things done fast, and ‘become something’ fast? I have felt this background pressure most of my life, and it’s been disconcerting to discover that this hyper-extrinsic mindset has infected the mainstream personal and spiritual growth spaces as well.
A prospective client of mine will often inquire, “How long will it take to bring about the changes I want in my life?” My response is generally something like, “It depends on how you approach the process.” And then I offer the only assurance that feels legitimate, which is that I will be the lighthouse, and help steer them toward the truest approach I know.
It has been my experience that grasping for quick fixes tends to produce the opposite effect, which leads to a whole lot of frustration and waste. Instead, I have effectively helped myself and my clients to slow down, to stop spinning wheels searching ‘out there’ for information and answers, and to gradually become familiar with being still and listening. In the stillness, a whole-person softening happens. This softening invites an expansion, or an opening, and in this new spaciousness a sincere, organic clarity is invited to emerge. This is exciting, because the clarity is bubbling up from within, and it is of a much higher quality than the notion of clarity we may have perceived previously - which was actually more of a sorting of external information.
The kind of clarity that comes from within tends to emerge slowly at first, like tiny bubbles rising up from the deep depths of us, gradually growing bigger and freer as more and more bubbles begin to reach the surface-air of our full conscious awareness. What may at first seem small and insignificant, slowly accumulates until major “aha” moments of clarity explode in our conscious mind, and truly transformational personal gains become suddenly accessible. Though it evolved gradually, behind the scenes, it’s as if one day we realize we are seeing through a new lens. I like to call this a “Soul Shift,” and most of my clients begin to experience this within a few months of learning how to consistently pay deeper attention.
One favorite example I can share, occurred with a client I will call Lenora. On one of our weekly calls, about 5 months into our work together, Lenora excitedly declares that when she looks in the mirror now, she doesn’t “hate” herself. “It’s just. not. there. anymore!” she exclaims. “And I’m getting along so well with my husband and kids now! There is a new peace in our home.” Through a simple but dedicated daily practice of stillness, presence with herself, communion with nature, and journaled self-inquiries, Lenora had touched the eternal, still Self (or true nature) beneath all her imposed narratives and identities - she realized her natural state of love - and it brought her a quietly exciting new kind of peace with herself and her family.
Striving, reaching, grasping, wanting, efforting, judging and reacting are typically the normal (but not natural!!) life responses for most people, most of the time. These are contracted, tense energies. Yet stillness, presence, listening, observing, opening, allowing - these are extraordinary frequency upgrades, because they are relaxed, expansive energies which invite true wisdom and lasting clarity to emerge. In today’s speedy, noisy, information-driven external world, softening and expanding requires mindful intention and attention, discipline, and sacred protection.
Have you ever had the experience of searching for the right advice from authorities or acquaintances, only to feel irritated or unsettled with what was offered? Yet when we create the space in our lives to slow down and listen INwardly instead, the wisdom that bubbles up into our conscious awareness will be the most accurate for what we truly need - it will be perfectly customized to meet us in the moment.
It is in this way that the paradox works: the truth that is felt in stillness and spacious awareness, accumulates and brings a fresh new kind of momentum to our path of maturing, peaceful sovereign embodiment. This kind of momentum is quiet, because its roots are growing and strengthening well beneath the shared surface of daily life. There is no longer such effort to mold ourself around unsatisfactory external advice; no longer a dependency on religious or spiritual norms or dogma; no longer a desire to reach for substances such as psychedelics to speed up our insights and personal growth (or heavy, toxic substances to numb the pain of perceived separation).
When we choose our tools wisely, and use them mindfully and persistently, they support the truest form of steady, rapid, sustainable personal growth. At first, stillness may feel a bit uncomfortable, we may feel unqualified for our own deep self-inquiry, and presence may seem like an intangible concept. It may be very helpful at this time to have a map, or a framework to guide us gently to our own inner discoveries (see the free offering at the end of this post). Quietly, gradually, unseen momentum builds and we begin to realize a newfound capacity to embody our natural, relaxed and expansive state of love, peace, joy, compassion and kindness — even right in the midst of a society humming loudly at lower frequencies.
Wherever we may begin our journey of emptying, cleansing, awakening and embodying, as the natural momentum quietly grows we will naturally find ourselves readily releasing lower frequencies from our lives. This might look like letting go of denser foods (such as cooked or otherwise processed foods and food-stuffs) and stimulants, losing interest in drama, conflict and negativity, and beginning to release our grip on our judgmental thoughts, as well as our need to know or to control.
Eating mindful meals of fresh, ripe fruit is cleansing for our body, and observing our thoughts and realizing we can choose which ones to engage with brings relief and personal empowerment. Slowing down enough to practice stillness, communion with nature, and walking barefoot; deepening our self-inquiry and recording insights in a journal - these are the tools that gradually and powerfully bring a revelatory, fulfilling, sustained quiet momentum to our sacred spiritual journey. While the world keeps playing its hyper-speed superficial games, you are quietly, surely, returning to your center and re-embodying your natural state, which was never lost - only forgotten.
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To gently support you on your way, I’d like to plant another seed for my friend Leo K. Johnson’s remarkable new body of work centered around ‘The Emptying Path,’ and ‘Non-Reactive Intelligence,’ which resonates so perfectly with my own sharings.
From August 7–11, the ebook Non-Reactive Intelligence: The Art of Invincible Presence by Leo K. Johnson will be free to download on Amazon Kindle.
What if your greatest strength isn’t how quickly you react — but how deeply you remain?
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More than a philosophy, Non-Reactive Intelligence is a practical guide to living with calm attention and emotional sovereignty. Rooted in deep spiritual insight and personal experience, its teachings feel especially relevant in these unsettled times.
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Podcasts, music, and videos:
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With appreciation,
Leo K. Johnson
And for fun, here is a little collaboration between us. He loved my title for this blog-post so much that he couldn’t resist writing a poem about it:
Quiet Momentum
I have known this silence —
not as absence,
but as a slow turning beneath the snow.
Not all things that grow must speak.
Some deepen.
Some dream.
There is a rhythm not kept by clocks —
a leaning inward,
a softening of edges,
a root finding its way through dark earth
without hurry.
You might miss it,
if you’re looking for signs.
It leaves no trail,
only a hush where once there was wind.
She spoke of quiet momentum —
and I understood.
Not with the mind,
but with the hands I folded in my lap,
the stillness that has lived behind my ribs
for years.
Ellen this writing is illuminating, this line stood out for me for sure. “heavy, toxic substances to numb the pain of perceived separation” funny enough this line was in parentheses. Upon reflection it seems everything in our lives and in society is a ritual of that very thing, Separation…it’s not as simple as it seems to feel or “be” connected to all creation. There seems to be a very well constructed system to keep us (multi dimensional beings)from realizing our true potential..hmmm..
I am happy to have read this writing. So much love and ever connectedness.
T
Beautiful, wow!! Thanks so much Ellen! 💗